I promise that my entire blog will not turn into my journey through weight loss surgery, there’s a whole lot more to me than just the numbers on a scale. But I had to post for all you amazing people who cheered me on and prayed for my recovery. I’m doing well. I’ve had no pain — pretty amazing when you figure the doctor took out a huge portion of my stomach. I’m tired, weak and a bit frustrated at being tired and weak, but I’m here! I’m on the other side of the surgery.
When I wrote that last post about having surgery, I was terrified that I’d get all manner of people telling me horror stories. For some reason people tend to tell me such stories. I don’t think it’s me, I think we just love telling BIG over the top stories. It’s like when people tell a newly pregnant Mom about their 42 hour labor– what’s the point?
I’m thrilled to say that you are all the sweetest bunch of supporters this chubby girl could have! Your kind words, prayers, and supportive comments made my day …. well, not actually the surgery day, that one is still a bit of a blur, but the day after! Y’all MADE that one!
I’m excited about this new journey that I’m on. There’s the healthy new me in the works. There’s the Bible study coming out late summer / early fall – Authentic Friendships: Real Women Finding Real Faith. There is even talk of a big kick off event in Florida something late summer…. but more on that later!
Thank you all! You’ll never know how afraid I was to be real about this weight loss journey and you’ll never know how much your comments gave me strength and inspired me to tell the story!
I have a super cute index card binder thing (great description, I know!) I started it January 1, it’s where I’m tracking my weight and measurements. The verse I chose for this year:
Yet, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. Romans 8:37
I’m holding onto this with both hands! In ALL these THINGS! I have a Savior who loves me and in Him I am a conqueror!
Look — I found the pictures of the binder~
Yesterday I wrote about the Authentic Friendships Bible study. I talked about my struggle with being capable of writing something like this. Today, I’m going to share something that I’d rather not… well, I’m excited about it, but I know it’s going to create some comments that I may not want.
I considered whether I’d share this and I went to one of my trusted girlfriends and her words to me were “Girl, you KNOW you’re going to tell everyone.” And she’s right — I will tell everyone. I don’t have that KEEP IT QUIET gene.
I’m having weight loss surgery today — actually the official name is Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy — but weight loss surgery is easier to type and say.
This isn’t something I take lightly. I’ve studied, researched and educated myself over the last year. I’ve considered options. I’ve prayed over this decision and I am at peace with this choice. I’ve been on more diets than I can count. My weight goes down 2o and up 25. And I have more to lose than just 20lbs – much more. I’m fat — officially I’m considered Obese with an unhealthy Body Mass Index. I have several health conditions that are directly related to my weight, but I’ll stop there because I tend to overshare — and really, you probably aren’t incredibly interested in my medical health.
I’m just sharing the journey. And that’s what I’m going to do from time to time — share the journey. I’m not just having surgery, I’m changing my lifestyle — completely. I’m excited to take this step!
I know you may have an opinion on my decision and I respect it, but while you’re reading this I’m in surgery. I ask for your prayers and your support — and feel free to join me on this journey. I promise it will be interesting!! I won’t hold back — and I’ll be authentic.
I’m trusting God!!
Just the other day I talked about pressing questions I was pondering. One I mentioned was should I cute my hair? I had a question about what it means to cute your hair… and I honestly didn’t have a clue what Elaine was talking about. She asked if it was a Southern thing… and I probably responded with something like ‘Aren’t you darling for asking,’ because that’s what I do when I don’t know what you’re talking about. So Elaine — I meant to type CUT my hair. Should I CUT my hair now that I’m 50. It’s something I think of from time to time. Long or short I do want CUTE hair.
I mentioned the Bible study I was working on in my last post — the one that I lost the manuscript in what I like to refer to has the EPIC hard drive failure of 2013 (also known as – why Mary now BACKS UP EVERYTHING and all the TIME). I’ve written for years — I have a couple of books. My latest released just a few years ago – God, Grace and Girlfriends: Adventures in Faith & Friendship. I’ve written articles and booklets on things I know little to nothing about — but I’m an AVID researcher. You know those little books you see in the grocery store check out line? How to Fix this or that. I’ve written a few of those — on plumbing problems, installing ceiling fans, etc. I’ve written about the stock market — in fact I wrote for Charles Schwabb for a season. I’ve never been afraid of a subject…. until I wrote a Bible study. OH MY!
And I didn’t write just any Bible study I wrote about being authentic – “why in the world did I pick such a topic? ” This thought crossed my mind more than once or twice. I’m sure I must have asked this question at least 754 times as I wrote. After all, I’m a good Southern girl — we just sweep it all under the rug and then put a cute table over it. For some reason — and it could only be God Himself, I wrote about authentic friendships. I wrote about authentic faith and about authentic life. I pulled that rug back and showed all the dirt under it and then I tossed out the rug and the cute table.
Above all of this — I (or I should say WE as I could NOT have done this without the incredible work of Melinda Garman and Karen Barrows) wrote a Bible study — and that alone is a sentence I thought I’d never write.. I’ve probably led more studies than I can count. I’ve led studies written by others, I’ve led others as we walked through scripture and I’ve prepared messages for groups small and larger. But there was something so overwhelming about writing a Bible study. I’m just a mess of a woman who struggles to get time in with Jesus. I mess up A LOT! I fall into sin and sometimes I just jump right in with my eyes open. I told you I’m a MESS! Why in the world would the Lord want me to write anything for anyone? That’s another question I asked myself over and over. I don’t have an answer.
I’ve written about authentic faith and what it means. I’ve talked about it here and there, but to write a Bible study… that’s a whole new level of OH MY WHAT AM I THINKING!
After all I’m a people pleaser — I want to make people happy and I want them ALL to like me. A LOT. I know I have issues and I told you I’m a MESS.
So, I want to know something from you — what do authentic friends mean to you? Do you have them in your life? And what does authentic faith mean to you? I would love to hear your answers.
Hello! I’m back… well, I say that and then I drift away again. But this time it’s different, at least that’s my plan, but then I never planned to drift away it just happened.
I’ve not updated this blog in a long time, but life is started to find a pace that I can manage. It’s a pace that I can track with and not lose all my brain cells.
It’s been a crazy few months. I had a book deadline in December that I couldn’t make happen. It was hard to ask for an extension, but it’s the BEST thing I could do. I asked. My gracious and ever so kind editor granted me 6 additional weeks. I needed every moment of those.
My Dad got really ill and was in ICU for days and he passed away on November 22nd. It was hard. I truly didn’t know what to do. I just held on tight to Jesus. I didn’t talk to people. I didn’t tell people. I just turned my grief inward and I wrote. I didn’t edit, I didn’t care. Life is too precious. I just wrote my heart out and I let Jesus lead — I didn’t second guess the process.
Losing Dad was something I thought I was ready for — see he’d been sick for quite some time. I thought I’d prepared my heart, but that’s just not the case. I miss Daddy, he loved a good argument and I loved to give him one. He lived a long and interesting life. He had stories to tell, I just wish I had a few more years to hear some more of those stories.
As I grieved losing Dad, I still had the obligation to work and writing. I knew there was no way I could manage this book alone — I prayed and God was clear — ask Melinda and Karen to write with you. I did and they said yes. They are ROCK STARS. I gave them just a concept, a vague outline and said “PLEASE help me.” They rose to the challenge. Melinda delivered some amazing devotionals — and if you don’t read Melinda’s daily blog you are missing out on something great! So start reading it today. Karen jumped in with both feet and took over two weeks of Bible study material. Karen is an incredible bible teacher and speaker — if you’re looking for a woman to bring you the WORD of GOD, call on Karen!
January 15th we turned in a manuscript that defies all the odds — written in 6 weeks, written by three women who never truly consulted each other, but did cling to God. It’s something I’m so proud of — not because of my skills, goodness no! I’m proud because I just got out of the way and let the Lord work through me. I’m proud because my two BEST friends came alongside me. I’m proud because I know this is from Jesus and not me. I’m just humbled that He would choose to use a mess like me.
I’ll share more about this book, actually Bible Study, as it gets closer to publication time.
I’m just glad to be back — get ready for some serious discussions about riveting topics like — should I cute my hair now that I’m 50? Can I wear skinny jeans even if I’m FAR from skinny? What happened to regular network programming — September through May?
I know it sounds like some amazing stuff, doesn’t it?
Glad to be back here!
I’ve read the article.
I’ve heard the talking heads discuss the situation.
I’ve read the blog posts speculating on what happens next.
I’ve watch my facebook feed fill up with support for the Robertson family.
I decided maybe I, too, have something to say. Something a bit different.
Many of you know that I work with the company that is handling the Duck Commander Cruise. What most people don’t know, and I do not publicize, is I’m friends with one of the key cast members. We’ve gotten to know one another over the past year and a friendship has formed. I don’t post pictures of us on facebook and I don’t talk about it because she gets enough of that from people who don’t know her. When this firestorm over Phil’s statements hit the media, I reached out to say ”I’m praying for you and the family.” My heart aches for the family. We tend to forget these are real people, with real lives and real families. While they may be on TV, it still hurts when people throw rocks.
I’ve watch Facebook fill up with support for Phil and family — and I love that!
It’s wonderful when the church stands together in support of a family.
As for me, I stand right in Phil’s camp. Sin is sin and whether it’s homosexuality or adultery or lying or stealing –it’s sin. And we have all sinned. I ask forgiveness of my sins regularly.
While I love watching the church rally around Phil and the Robertson family, it breaks my heart to see the meanness that accompanies much of this support.
Let me explain –
With every post in support of the Phil and his right to speak, there is another that attacks A&E, the gay and lesbian community, the media, and others.
Why does it feel like Christians, as a collective group, are spoiling for a fight? We attack the enemy with such a vengeance it’s frightening.
Duck Dynasty has a national platform — they are living out their faith before the entire world. Phil’s words are resonating around the world. The support of Phil is heard all over. And that’s wonderful! But the attacks from the Christian community are also heard. I’ve read some incredibly venomous attacks on the A&E, on the gay & lesbian community, and on the writer of the article. Sure, they were written in support of Phil Robertson and his right to speak his mind — and I support that right. But can’t we support Phil and the Robertson family without attacking others? Can’t we love the Robertson and love the enemies of the Robertson family?
This is our chance! The statement issued by the Robertson family encourages us to love one another. Let’s show the world how a person of faith responds to such an attack. Let’s embrace Jesus’ teaching in Luke 6
32 “Do you think you deserve credit for merely loving those who love you? Even the godless do that!
And if you do good only to those who do you good—is that so wonderful? Even sinners do that much!
And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, what good is that? Even the most wicked will lend to their own kind for full return!
“Love your enemies! Do good to them! Lend to them! And don’t be concerned about the fact that they won’t repay. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as sons of God: for he is kind to the unthankful and to those who are very wicked. Luke 6:32-35
What if we just stood beside Phil in support WITHOUT attacking the media?
What if we refused to say unkind words about the gay & lesbian community?
What if we just love them? What if decide to act like the sons and daughters of the Most High?
Can you imagine the difference we would make?